Robert Paynter, NCPS
10 years in practice
Robert Paynter is a counsellor who works from an emotionally-focused perspective and blends approaches to suit each person.
License and registration
- NCPS
- NCS20-01745 · expires June 2026
- Years in practice
- 10
- Languages
- English, Afrikaans, Portuguese
Details are as listed on the therapist's public professional profile. You can check the registration with the body that granted it.
About Robert
Robert Paynter is a counsellor who works from an emotionally-focused perspective and blends approaches to suit each person. He uses Emotionally-Focused Therapy alongside practical methods to help people manage stress, anxiety and addiction. Robert brings ten years of professional experience to his practice and speaks English, Afrikaans and Portuguese.
He aims to make sessions straightforward and easy to follow. Conversations focus on feelings, patterns that cause pain, and simple steps people can try between meetings.
Background and approach
The tone is warm and direct so people can talk openly about self-esteem, relationship worries, anger or work stress. Robert adapts his style depending on what someone needs. He draws on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy when useful, and keeps a person-centred stance to make space for each individual's story.
This mix helps with mood, coping after major life change, and managing addictive behaviours. His background includes work with a broad range of concerns such as caregiving stress, chronic illness, body image, and sexual health matters like kink and BDSM. Robert also supports people dealing with communication problems, codependency and the fallout from separation or domestic violence.
Sessions can take different forms to fit busy lives. People can expect practical tools, reflective conversation and help setting realistic goals. Robert aims to help clients build clearer coping plans and move towards more manageable days.
Focus areas and approaches
Everything Robert lists on their public professional profile, in their own terms.
- Stress, Anxiety
- Addictions
- LGBT
- Relationship issues
- Depression
- Anger management
- Self esteem
- Career difficulties
- Coping with life changes
- Coaching
- Compassion fatigue
- Abandonment
- Aging and geriatric issues
- Attachment issues
- BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
- Body image
- Cancer
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Codependency
- Communication problems
- Control issues
- Divorce and separation
- Domestic violence
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- Eating and food-related issues
- Emptiness
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- First responder issues
- Forgiveness
- Guilt and shame
- HIV / AIDS
- Hoarding
- Immigration issues
- Impulsivity
- Infidelity
- Isolation / loneliness
- Jealousy
- Life purpose
- Men's issues
- Midlife crisis
- Veteran and Armed Forces Issues
- Money and financial issues
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Narcissism
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships
- Post-traumatic stress
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
- Self-love
- Sex addiction
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Sexual dysfunction
- Sexuality
- Smoking / vaping cessation
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Approaches Robert names
- Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
- Attachment-Based Therapy
- Client-Centered Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
- Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
- Existential Therapy
- Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)
- Jungian Therapy
- Mindfulness Therapy
- Motivational Interviewing
- Narrative Therapy
- Psychodynamic Therapy
- Solution-Focused Therapy
- Somatic Therapy
- Trauma-Focused Therapy
- Systemic Therapy
Naming an approach is not evidence of training in it. This directory copies what each therapist lists and does not check training records.
Online support
Emotion-focused and practical therapy online
Emotionally-Focused Therapy focuses on identifying and working with core emotions and the patterns that keep people stuck. It helps when painful feelings and repeated interaction patterns are getting in the way of daily life and relationships.Acceptance and Commitment Therapy encourages clearer values and small committed actions. It helps people notice unhelpful thoughts, accept difficult feelings and move towards what matters most. Attachment-Based Therapy looks at how early connection styles shape current relations and emotional responses, which can help with trust, abandonment fears and communication problems.
Choosing the right approach is a shared process. The counsellor will discuss goals, try methods that match those goals and adjust as progress is made. Clients help set the pace and decide which techniques feel most useful.
Online sessions are offered as video calls, phone sessions, live chat or text messaging to fit different routines. Video is useful for deeper conversation and emotional work, phone calls suit people who prefer not to be on camera, and chat or messaging can be used for shorter check-ins or when flexibility is needed. These options make it easier to fit therapy around work, travel or varied schedules.
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Questions people ask
What kinds of problems does this counsellor help with?
He helps with stress, anxiety, addictions, depression, relationship concerns, anger and self-esteem issues, plus career and coping with life changes.
How would sessions feel and what approach is used?
Sessions are emotionally-focused and person-centred, often mixed with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy or CBT to give practical tools alongside feeling work.
What is his professional background?
He has ten years of experience delivering therapeutic support and has worked with a wide range of presenting concerns across different cultures.
What credentials and location are listed?
He holds NCPS as a credential and is based in the United Kingdom.
Which languages can sessions be held in?
Sessions are offered in English, Afrikaans and Portuguese and he accepts international clients.
What session formats are available?
Work can be done via video calls, phone sessions, live chat or text-based messaging to suit different preferences.
How are costs handled?
Cost varies with location and therapist arrangements; sessions use a subscription model that can be cancelled at any time.
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