Jamie Lavender, LMFT

California · 21 years in practice

Jamie Lavender is a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) based in California who emphasizes Emotionally-Focused Therapy alongside attachment-informed, client-centered work.

License and registration

LMFT, California: 48973 · expires August 2027
NPI: 1396305454 · national provider identifier
Years in practice: 21
Languages: English

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About Jamie

Jamie Lavender is a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) based in California who emphasizes Emotionally-Focused Therapy alongside attachment-informed, client-centered work. He aims to create a calm, accepting space where people can ground themselves, speak honestly, and start to make small, manageable changes. His approach is practical and straightforward, focused on helping people find steady footing when life feels hard.

Jamie has 21 years of clinical experience addressing a wide range of struggles.

Background and approach

He helps people dealing with addiction and impulse-related behaviors, relationships and intimacy, trauma and grief, depression and anxiety, and parenting and caregiver stress. He also supports exploration of sexual identity, kink and alternative sexual cultures, body image, and career or life transitions.

He often combines Emotionally-Focused Therapy with attachment-based ideas and client-centered listening to help people notice patterns and build new ways of relating to themselves and others. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Dialectical Behavior Therapy skills are used when helpful for managing intense emotions and changing unhelpful thought patterns.

Jamie practices harm reduction for substance and impulse concerns, working with people at whatever stage they are in. This can mean moderation, temporary or longer abstinence, or working on safety and reduced harm while use continues. The pace is set by the person in therapy, with attention to what is doable and sustainable.

Sessions are offered through video calls, phone, live chat, and text messaging. He works in English and serves clients within California. To begin, people complete a short matching questionnaire and schedule according to availability.

Focus areas and approaches

Everything Jamie lists on their public professional profile, in their own terms.

Addictions
Relationship issues
Trauma and abuse
Grief
Depression
Stress, Anxiety
LGBT
Family conflicts
Intimacy-related issues
Eating disorders
Sleeping disorders
Parenting issues
Anger management
Self esteem
Career difficulties
Coping with life changes
Compassion fatigue
Attachment issues
BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
Blended family issues
Body image
Caregiver issues and stress
Commitment issues
Communication problems
Divorce and separation
Drug and alcohol addiction
Eating and food-related issues
Family of origin issues
Family problems
Fatherhood issues
Forgiveness
Guilt and shame
Impulsivity
Life purpose
Men's issues
Midlife crisis
Mood disorders
Multicultural concerns
Pregnancy and childbirth
Prejudice and discrimination
Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
Self-harm
Self-love
Sex addiction
Sexuality
Women's issues
Workplace issues
Young adult issues

Approaches Jamie names

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Online support

Emotion, attachment, and online care

Jamie uses Emotionally-Focused Therapy to help people notice and shift painful emotional patterns in relationships and within themselves. EFT focuses on identifying key feelings, opening up about them in the session, and practicing new, more supportive responses to strengthen bonds and reduce conflict.

He also draws on attachment-based ideas that look at how early relationship patterns affect current behavior and trust. These ideas help people see why they react the way they do and practice new ways of relating. Client-centered therapy is another foundation of his work, which means sessions focus on listening, empathy, and letting the person guide what matters most in therapy.

Finding the right approach is collaborative. Jamie will talk with each person about their goals, try approaches that fit those goals, and adjust work as progress is seen. Together they decide which techniques to use and how quickly to move, keeping the process practical and grounded.

Online therapy offers flexible ways to connect. Video calls allow face-to-face interaction for deeper emotional work. Phone sessions can be simpler when bandwidth is limited or when someone needs a shorter check-in. Live chat and text messaging work well for ongoing support, brief reflections, and check-ins between sessions. These options make it easier to fit therapy into busy schedules and different life situations.

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Questions people ask

What concerns does Jamie work with?

He addresses addictions and impulse problems, relationship and intimacy issues, trauma and grief, depression and anxiety, parenting and caregiver stress, body image, and a range of related concerns.

How would you describe his therapeutic style?

Jamie combines Emotionally-Focused Therapy with attachment-based and client-centered methods, using practical skills from CBT and DBT when useful to manage emotions and behavior.

How much experience does he have?

He has 21 years of clinical experience working with people across many relationship and behavioral concerns.

Where is Jamie licensed and located?

He is a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) practicing in California.

Which languages are supported for sessions?

Sessions are offered in English.

Can people outside the U.S. work with him?

International clients are not currently accepted; he works with people located in California.

What session formats are available online?

Therapy is offered via video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging to suit different preferences and routines.

How does the subscription and cost work?

Costs vary with location and therapist availability; sessions use a subscription model that can be canceled at any time.

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