Richard Alongi, LMFT

California · 36 years in practice

Richard Alongi is a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) practicing in California with 36 years of experience.

License and registration

LMFT, California: 19896 · expires December 2027
NPI: 1609047216 · national provider identifier
Years in practice: 36
Languages: English

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About Richard

Richard Alongi is a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) practicing in California with 36 years of experience. He focuses on helping people facing addiction, relationship strain, trauma, intimacy concerns, anxiety, depression, and struggles with self-esteem. He aims to meet people where they are and to talk in direct, respectful ways that feel useful and understandable.

He favors Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) alongside attachment-based and client-centered approaches. In sessions he listens for patterns in feelings and close relationships, then helps people notice what they need and how to ask for it.

Background and approach

Conversations are practical and paced to each person’s readiness. Alongi adapts treatment to individual needs rather than using a one-size-fits-all plan. That can mean working on coping skills for grief, strategies for managing cravings, or ways to rebuild intimacy and trust.

He also addresses issues like burnout, caregiving stress, and problems connected to attachment and abandonment. People can expect a calm, respectful tone and an emphasis on clear next steps. He describes therapy as collaborative and intends to tailor goals to each person’s life and values.

Sessions are offered in English for residents of California. To begin, a short matching questionnaire and scheduling step connects a person to his practice. Therapy uses a subscription model that can be canceled at any time and includes multiple online session formats.

Focus areas and approaches

Everything Richard lists on their public professional profile, in their own terms.

Addictions
Relationship issues
Trauma and abuse
Intimacy-related issues
Self esteem
Stress, Anxiety
Grief
Anger management
Career difficulties
Depression
Coping with life changes
Coaching
Compassion fatigue
ADHD
Abandonment
Aging and geriatric issues
Attachment issues
Avoidant personality
BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
Caregiver issues and stress
Co-morbidity
Codependency
Commitment issues
Control issues
Dependent personality
Dissociation
Divorce and separation
Drug and alcohol addiction
Emptiness
Family of origin issues
Fatherhood issues
Forgiveness
Gender dysphoria
Guilt and shame
Hoarding
Hospice and end-of-life counseling
Impulsivity
Infidelity
Isolation / loneliness
Jealousy
Life purpose
Men's issues
Midlife crisis
Money and financial issues
Mood disorders
Narcissism
Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
Personality disorders
Phobias
Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships
Post-traumatic stress
Prejudice and discrimination
Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
Self-love
Sex addiction
Sexual dysfunction
Sexuality
Social anxiety and phobia
Women's issues
Young adult issues

Approaches Richard names

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Online support

How relational approaches translate to online work

Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) focuses on emotions and how they shape close connections; it helps people name key feelings, understand relationship patterns, and practice new ways of responding that build connection and reduce conflict. Attachment-Based Therapy looks at early relationship patterns and how they influence current bonds; it helps people recognize attachment needs and try different, healthier ways to get those needs met. Client-Centered Therapy centers the person’s experience and pace, using empathic listening so people can explore goals, values, and what feels most important to change.

Figuring out which approach fits best is part of the work. The therapist collaborates with each person to match methods to their needs, goals, and preferences and will adjust the way they work as those needs change over time.

Online sessions are offered by video, phone, live chat, or text-based messaging to provide flexibility. Video calls allow face-to-face conversation for deeper relational work, phone sessions can be easier when bandwidth or screen time is limited, and chat or messaging can suit brief check-ins or times when typing feels more manageable. These options help people keep therapy consistent around work, caregiving, or travel.

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Questions people ask

What concerns does this therapist commonly address?

He works with addiction, relationship problems, trauma and intimacy-related issues, anxiety, depression, grief, anger, and self-esteem challenges, among other concerns.

What is his general therapeutic style?

He uses Emotionally-Focused Therapy, attachment-based ideas, and client-centered approaches to help people notice feelings and change patterns in relationships.

How much clinical experience does he have?

He has 36 years of professional experience working with people on a wide range of emotional and relational issues.

What credentials and location information are on file?

He is a licensed marriage and family therapist - LMFT - practicing in California.

Which languages are supported for sessions?

Sessions are offered in English.

What session formats are offered online?

Sessions can take place by video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging to fit different schedules and needs.

How does payment and cost work?

Cost varies by location and the therapist’s availability; sessions use a subscription that can be canceled at any time.

What are the first steps to begin therapy?

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